Of all the strategies to improve relationships, one of the most effective is what I call “one-minute amnesty.” We’ve been unknowingly practicing this strategy since we were children every time we called for a “do-over” during a game. “Do over.” What happy words those were and how often necessary! Now, we only have to mutually […]

I’m not the kind of psychologist who thinks that people should try to avoid any feelings of guilt. When we could do better, we should do better. (That’s what classical psychoanalyst Carl Jung described as healthy guilt.) But guilt is like fear:  essential for brief periods and paralyzing when chronic. Long-lasting guilt about our deficiencies […]